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When Christmas Feels Heavy

As Christmas draws near, the world becomes louder with cheer, lights, and celebration. Yet for many, (including myself some past Christmas’s) this season feels anything but joyful. It can amplify feelings of loneliness, grief, and the quiet ache of those who are no longer here, loved ones, friends, partners, and our cherished furry companions.

If you’re feeling this way, please know there is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken, weak, or behind. You are human, and your heart remembers. Here are three gentle strategies to help you move through this season with more compassion for yourself:

1. Allow What Is, Without Judgement

You don’t have to force happiness just because it’s Christmas. Give yourself permission to feel sadness, longing, or emptiness. Emotions soften when they are acknowledged rather than resisted. Even saying quietly, “This is hard for me right now”, can be deeply healing.

2. Create Small Rituals of Connection

If traditional celebrations feel too much, create your own gentle ritual. Light a candle for those you miss, write them a letter, place a photo somewhere special, or spend time in nature. Rituals help us honour love that still exists, even when someone is gone.

3. Reach Out, You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

Loneliness grows in silence. A simple message, a short walk with someone you trust, or seeking professional support can make a difference. Connection doesn’t need to be big or overwhelming, even one safe conversation can ease the weight you’re carrying.

This season doesn’t ask you to be cheerful, it asks you to be real. Be kind to yourself. Take things moment by moment. And remember, even in the quiet and the ache, you are not alone. ✨💚

20 December 2025